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what are you worried about?

Hey team,

What have you been worried about lately? What’s been taking up more of your brainspace than it deserves?

You know the worries I’m referring to – the ones that don’t seem to serve a purpose when you worry about them. The ones that detract from your quality of life and deplete your energy when you think about them, the ones that never seem to have any resolve and yet you can’t seem to stop worrying about them regardless?

To clarify, I am NOT talking about the things of life that really should/need to be faced. I’m talking about the tiny, nagging, irrelevant worries that don’t really matter and, in the grand scheme of things, are relatively small potatoes.

Great. Now that we’re all in agreeance on the kind of worrying I’m talking about, on with my point…

I think worrying is a habit. I really do. There are a few things at any given period of my life that I seem to consistently worry about, and then at the next period where a new wave of random worries takes over, I’ll look back at the past batch of worries with perspective, embarrassment, and usually some humor.

So if any given batch of small-potatoes worries can be swept up by a new wave of worries, why even have them in the first place? Why not just expedite the process and cut out the middle-man, skip the worries altogether and have a happier, fuller, richer life?

Oh, is this where I’m supposed to have the answer? I was asking rhetorically…

Seriously! Lately, I’ve been trying to worry less by noticing when I worry, what I frequently worry about, and how quickly my worries can get out-of-hand. I’m trying to manage my worries with a bit of a sense of humor and a bit of compassion, depending on the situation and the type of worry.

How are you with your worries? What do you worry about most? Do you feel separated from your worries or do you feel enveloped by them? Do you have any ideas for how you can separate yourself from them more?

I care about this issue a lot and am looking forward to thoughts from you guys. I think we all deserve lives with a few less worries.

Thanks for reading!

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Konstantin
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JennetteWhere are you?

Alex
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She posted a few days ago and then deleted it and made an Instagram live and deleted that too. I think Canvas Media told her not to post or something and idk if or when she’ll be back tbh.

Konstantin
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Wow !! Somebody answered me. 🙂 Usually I rarely get people to communicate. Everyone is waiting for them to answer Jennett. But very much want to communicate with everyone and that everyone has a live dialogue.

Alex
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Yeah no problem I was wondering the same thing so I thought I’d reply. Everyone is waiting just for Jenn to reply cuz she barely replies anywhere else but on this blog. I was kinda mad she deleted her last post cuz I had a really long thought out reply and it was all for nothing. She hung out with that girl Kaya yesterday so she can’t be that busy. I think it has to do with Canvas Media but we might find out in her upcoming FB live supposed to be on the 18th but who knows if that… Read more »
Kyle
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I was able to read it before she deleted. I always like to do that, collect my thoughts on it and post something later. I assumed that she has it set up to automatically post at some time, and decided she was too busy or did not feel like replying or something when it went down. It was a good post about getting into flow. You know when you are so focused and getting enjoyment from the task at hand that you loose time. Here is part of what I wanted to respond. For me Turing off lights in a… Read more »
Alex
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It didn’t go down it was deleted and the FB link was deleted too. Then she made an IG live and deleted that within the hour. I read her blog post too and replied. Question is why did she delete it and her IG live and will she tell us why. That’s her main problem is being honest the right way. She can tell us when she lost her virginity but can’t tell us why she deleted a blog post. She told us a year after she deleted IG pics and her Twitter feed why and still didn’t explain why… Read more »
Kyle
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We’re only Human, you cannot fault her for wanting to portray a certain image. sure she’s done some questionable things in the past like revealing her loss of virginity, but she was also in a completely different mindset then. If you remember the circumstances she was under when she announced it, her mom was ill, and she was not sure how to deal with the fact that she might be loosing her. She was in a relationship that altered who she was, without her knowing. I could see it in her tweets, her mom even posted about it someplace. sure… Read more »
Alex
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Ok woah I gotta set you straight here when her mom was dying that wasn’t when she revealed how old she was when she lost her virginity, that was when she lost her virginity to who I think was Paul. She revealed that about in April or May when she posted about The Last Virgin in LA promoting it when it had already been on Vimeo since October. Also even tho I think Paul was a perv I don’t think Debbie met him. Jenns fathers sister told him things about him that supposedly weren’t true and he told Debbie those… Read more »
Kyle
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Ah I did not realize that she actually mentioned it a few months ago. I just kinda knew when she tweeted “I’m a virgin” that that was not for much longer. And yes it was Paul, when they were in Hawaii.

He mom was right about one thing in that “rant” he did change her and from my standpoint, this blog was the start of her finally taking back herself. To me everything she did just seamed slightly off from who I’d seen her before that.

Dorn
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Making the wrong decision… Being deceived, again, for the self serving want and/or greed of others. I’m in such turmoil, and the never ending tasks that need to be done, and most seem to be in the priority side of the box… I’m glad that it’s the right time, because a human could get old running around aimlessly like I feel that I’m doing sometimes. Just waiting for reality.

Joshua
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Worrying over the little things or things that can not happen or have little chance of happening used to be a large problem for me. I have had to rethink and come to terms with what I can control and what I can not. It has taken many years and countless hours of reflection. I still struggle with it on a daily basis. Writing this post here has it own worries. I have to look at each worry and see how worrying about it changes anything. Have I done all I can do to ease what I am worrying about.… Read more »
Alan
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I think that the worries will always be part of our lives, sometimes i see people usually see some problems bigger than they actually are, causing stress and concerns, I always recommend that when they learn to see the situations with calm and tranquility, they can resolve whatever, everything has a solution 🙂 I like to read your point of view, have a nice day

VT
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What does it mean to worry? Why do we do it if worry brings on such debilitating stress? We worry because we do not know. We do not know what is coming. We do not know what impact the choices we have made will have on our life. We focus on the unseen future. Here is the thing. You cannot change the past. You cannot predict the future. You exist in the present. So embrace the now. Worry is wasted energy. I could worry if I have a job on Monday. What good does that serve? Why am I worrying?… Read more »
Miles
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Being poor (by New Zealand standards) I have one over-riding worry: once the bills are paid how much money will i have for food this week? $40 a week for food is a good week. The other worry I have is the possibility that I could be unemployed for the rest of my working age life thanks to a combination of poor health, patchy work history and being banned from driving for life (for health reasons).

Jennette McCurdy
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oh no! these seem like big worries, not little ones. how do you manage them?

Alejandro
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Well, my worry is easy (i know no one will see this comment, soo, nha, and if someone do, think what aim going to say, relate it to your way of living), im always afraid of not finding the right person, someone who cares about the other more than itself, the one that could be named your friend, or more than that… Im afraid of meeting wrong people, who could make you feel sad, and, specially at this moment, im afraid to be alone in this new generation, were most of the people just care about what they see, not… Read more »
Jennette McCurdy
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it seems like you know what to look out for in friends, so you seem to be on the right path 🙂

Konstantin
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Hi, Jennette Hi to all. Live without worries is very strange. It seems that this does not exist. I can not imagine myself without worries. The main thing that worries me is the relationship with family and friends, especially if they are spoiled. I do not stop thinking about it for a minute. It drives me crazy. Of course, there are many other concerns, but they do not affect my sanity so much. The main decision is to do something that will correct mistakes or help change the source of worries. I remembered one song – “do not worry, be… Read more »
gabriela
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all my worries are uni related and honestly, there’s nothing i can do about them. like, i can’t look at them with a bit of humour, bc u know, that’s my future i’m worrying about (can’t play with the future huh). so i confess idk how to deal with that and i usually cry those worries out and worry a bit more *sarcastically laughs while a tear rolls down my face*

Jennette McCurdy
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i understand what you’re saying. this post was about smaller, trivial ones, not the more legitimate ones like uni grades etc. best of luck with your studies!!!

Annalies
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Hi Jennette.

I have had anxiety for so long it feels like everything is a big worry. I think what I consider actual small worries would be that I don’t read as much as I used to, my nail polish not being cool enough (sad I know), figuring out what to wear (also sad), and stairs because of my fear of heights (not so much sad as it is weird). These worries can be relieved with enough effort and care I think. Planning ahead or breathing deep breaths help.

Jennette McCurdy
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i love your awareness of yourself. keep at it. thanks for being here 🙂

Patricia
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Hi, Jennette. As always you are posting interesting posts! I’ll try to be concise, because I think you like to read things that are shorter and more direct. I always try to be unworried, but sometimes it’s difficult. Honestly, what worries me the most is not finding a job. I have hopes of getting it, but I worry because I need the money for my needs. I also worry about not liking people who are important to me. But you know? I try to fight to do what I have to do. That makes me feel good. That way I… Read more »
Jennette McCurdy
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keep trying at finding a job! work hard and it will happen 🙂

Dorn
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Nothing. Nothing at all. I have no control over any of this.

Jennette McCurdy
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Rose
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hi Jennette, love the blog! I always ask you questions that aren’t about your blog topic but this is the last one (i make no promises) can I expect new music? please make some!

Someguy
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Hi Jennette, I cant get rid of from some of my worries. Reason might be small or big but my worry magnitude is always same. Good thing is I can live with these, worrying never stops me from doing what I supposed to do. Maybe my mood is affected a little but enjoying the moment and having fun with a few friends always helps me to forget. Sometimes not completely but I can suppress for the moment. For most of emotions, suppresing is not something I recommend but at tiny worries, suppresing destroys them completely. I’m trying to have fun,… Read more »
Jason
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Hey Jennette,

I am bad with my worries. I try to separate my worries by watching youtube vids or tv it works sometimes but then damn things pop back up in my mind. What do I worry about most? Well i have two things and they’re major.

Brendon
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Lately my little worries have all been about small things, from buying a small coffee I know I shouldn’t be to being 2000 kilo meters over my oil change. Usually it takes me some time to not be distracted by my little worries until I start doing the small things I worry about, like changing my cars oil. I find putting my phone away and listening to loud music always helps.

Jennette McCurdy
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Brendon
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Kyle
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I don’t tend to worry about too many little things. Or at least I don’t see it that way. I believe the little worries that we have are connected to our bigger worries. Whether it be money, love, safety or something else that is one of or biggest worries, I think our little worries are tied to them. I also believe are worries are connected to the stage of life we are in. I think Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, has a pretty good gauge of what needs need to be filled. The ordering can and has been scrutinized. One of… Read more »
Jennette McCurdy
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Definitely on board with this!!

Christian
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Jennette, My worries are probably simplistic and irrational, but I have fought with them all my life. My worries are if I am doing the right thing and if I have considered everything. So what it does is puts me in brain freeze or information overload. So then I do nothing because I don’t know which is the “right” thing to do. I remember reading about Syd Barrett, the original leader of Pink Floyd. When he was losing his mind a bit, he had an apartment where all he had was a mattress in the middle of the floor. He… Read more »
Jennette McCurdy
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totally relate to the worry about doing the “right” thing and considering everything. let’s try and remind ourselves to not get caught up in these!!

Miki
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Before I worried about what they said or be nice to people and pretend to be someone who is not me, I felt this way because I wanted to be accepted, since I saw that I did not accept myself as I am, so I decided to pretend another self that I am not, On the one hand was nice, but then I suffered because I had lost my self, I was low self-esteem, I did not accept myself, it was a long process, but after finishing high school, from there I started to start from scratch, Myself and feel… Read more »
Jennette McCurdy
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i love this!! good for you for working on yourself 🙂

Miki
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Thanks Jennette is great that you liked that comment, I try to be focused on that and to remind myself that it only matters that I feel good about myself and be happy in what I am

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